Five months ago, nearly three years after we’d started the adoption process, Brad and I finally got the call telling us that we could travel to bring our son home. Less than one week later, we arrived in Kinshasa for what we expected would be both our first and last time. We would meet our son on day one and spend the next three weeks getting to know one another while we waited for some final documents, including the exit paperwork required by DRC for him to leave the country.
We were stunned to learn that, even though we met the criteria to receive an exit letter, we would be forced to return home without our boy. We’d spent five weeks parenting him, caring for him, falling in love with him, amazed at the honor and privilege that God has given us of being his parents. We’d watched him transform from a scared and hungry little boy to a child who’d fallen in love with his mommy and looked forward to morning walks with daddy. He trusted us to refill his cup with clean water when he was thirsty, scoop a second helping of dinner onto his plate when he was still hungry, hold him and kiss his tears when he cried.
The sound of our son’s screams as the driver pulled away from our hotel to return him to the orphanage will be forever burned into my memory. No child should ever, ever have to know what it feels like to be abandoned and no parent should ever be forced to do so.
It didn’t take long after we returned home for Brad and I to make the decision for me to return to Kinshasa to be with Jecoah until he is allowed to leave the country. I spent seven weeks preparing my family, our girls, my friends and myself for what we anticipated could be a very long and difficult season in our lives. Just as we would never allow one of our daughters to live in an orphanage 8,000 miles away from home, neither could we allow it for our son.
Seven weeks ago, I arrived in Kinshasa for the second time, but without my husband and with no idea when I might return home.
Recently, our case and the cases of several hundred other DRC adoptive families was taken on by adoption attorney Kelly Dempsey. Kelly was featured in the documentary STUCK a few years back and has assisted many other families in similar situations with getting their children home. We are thrilled that she is helping us!
There are a few ways you can help, too:
1. Click HERE and take less than three minutes to sign the petition to Congress asking them to help us resolve all pending adoptions by US citizens from DRC.
2. SHARE our story with your Facebook friends, your friends, neighbors, co-workers, etc. Encourage them to sign the petition!
3. Yes, as much as we wish things were different, we are still in need of financial support while J and I are living in Kinshasa. By rooming with other adoptive moms and their kids and also by fostering a baby I’ve been able to cut my expenses by nearly two-thirds. We are so thankful and have loved seeing how God is providing in unexpected ways! Still, it is incredibly expensive to live here and my portion of our rental fees is more than our monthly mortgage payment in the States. If you would like to offer financial support with a one time or ongoing donation, please click the DONATE button at the top of this page.
4. And, finally, please continue to pray for our family. This separation already has been so hard on Brad and I and our three daughters. We are all very close and our hearts are fragile; I miss my babies. I miss my love.
Thank you so much to all of you who have been following our story and have committed to praying for and supporting us. It is our heart’s desire that God will be glorified through our family.


One thought on “Jecoah

  1. Praying for you and your family Shellie. God is on the move. This is no longer in the dark. God works best in the light.

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